Has Adulthood Lived Up to our Expectations?

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“I can’t wait to leave school!”
“Being an adult is going to be so much fun!”
“Ugh! Adults have it so easy”

Do you remember saying this or something similar when you were younger?

Oh yes…

Were you ever told by your parents that you would actually miss school? Oh how we laughed!

But actually…they were right.

Our school years went by so fast and BAM!…we reached adulthood! Where do we go from here? The sudden realisation of taking on more responsibilities and just how little knowledge we have of life. So, what didn’t we learn about? 

Here is a list of the top 3 lessons we never got taught which ultimately made us realise that adulthood was nowhere near as fun as we thought it would be.

1. Money

Pocket money was earned by mostly doing household chores. Resulting in sweat and tears – mostly tears,  to be rewarded with great wealth that was £1 or if you were lucky, £2. If more…then you were a young millionaire! 

Seriously though, the money we had earned…we cherished and it was super hard to let go of. Unless the new Barbie doll or Action Man came out in Woolworth’s then that’s where we parted with our money.

Now? We have to pay rent, shopping, household bills, car insurance and so much more! £100 now feels like we have £1! 

2. Relationships

Remember having a major crush on the bad and popular girls and boys? Let’s admit it…we were never keen on the geeks were we? Well my friends, it turns out that the majority of us fell in love with those who we would never had thought, because we change perspective and realise that the personality of someone is what actually matters the most.
Liking and loving someone can cause us to feel a whirlwind of emotions and when we were young and innocent, we thought love would be plain-sailing. How wrong were we?

3. Friends

This is a big one – “We’re going to be BF’s forever!” 

Where are they now? Do they even remember us? Only a minority continue to stay friends but the rest are just a distant memory. This has to be one of the most horrible phases to go through – learning who our true friends are. 
When we think about it, leaving school and ‘adulting’ is a learning curve – but on our own terms. Unless we are studying, then we don’t have a time limit. We learn each day and at our own pace.

Maybe that’s why we never received any advice on life because everyone is different and nobody knows how our lives will turn out. In a way, that’s the beauty of it – the not knowing.

What do you think? Would you have wanted to be given ‘life advice’? Or did you prefer entering adulthood with the unknown?

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Ami is a disability blogger who writes about her journey to recovery and generally anything that makes her happy.

  1. I don’t know about anyone else but I LOVE being an adult!! 😛 Yeah, money is hard and friends are here and there but I can go to bed whenever I want, do whatever I want, when I want. I think it’s easy to see the hardships but, goddamn, I’m so happy I’m my own person!

    1. Totally get what you mean Sam, there’s definitely a sense of freedom being an adult that you don’t get in childhood. Thanks for leaving your thoughts!

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